Bad days are the absolute worst.
(You do not have to tell me twice).
But sometimes, honestly?
It’s just a matter of waking up to one.
Often, though, I feel like my chances of having a bad day are a tad bit higher due to a few things.
In these cases, I owe my best worst days to these ingredients:
No. Not waiting for your coffee to brew, a red light to switch to green, or waiting on something like a Spotify ad to end.
Honestly, I’ve found that waiting and depending on others for things you should do yourself is a great way to kick off your recipe to a bad day. Not only does it set you up to fail if they don’t come through, but it also places your happiness/success in their hands.
This part really sucks, and it’s even suckier because it’s hard to avoid.
Allowing disappointment to make its way into your heart is a key way to stir up your bad day.
For example, I came across this quote which really struck a chord with me:
“When things are a disappointment, try not to be so discouraged.”
So, I guess it’s not so much of allowing disappointment to effect you, as much as it is not letting yourself become discouraged by your disappointments. Basically, don’t sweat the small stuff. And even if it isn’t small stuff, you’ve got to keep going.
This is a big one for me.
I’m an extroverted person, so I draw my energy from those around me. So, if the people around me are having a terrible day- I too tend to have a bad day.
But external influences don’t have to just be people.
External issues can be anything from the weather, your car breaking down, or even losing your favorite sweater.
At times, it honestly feels like life is just chipping away at your outer layer- Just be careful what external influences you allow through.
“The benefit of the doubt”
1. A concession that a person or fact must be regarded as correct or justified, if the contrary has not been proven.
Believe me, I know. This is really difficult to do.
And honestly, here’s the most beneficial thing I’ve learned that has helped me combat this:
Don’t give people the benefit of the doubt for them, do it for YOUR peace of mind. If you believe, trust, and have faith in a person- then you’re much more likely to rest easy.
“Maybe ______ didn’t mean what they said in the way they said it.”
“It’s possible _____ forgot.”
“_____ wouldn’t do that.”
Yes- that makes you easier to take advantage of- but does it really matter? If you were wrong for trusting them, atleast you were the adult in the situation.
If you’re giving others the benefit of the doubt, don’t you think you owe it to you to not be too hard on yourself?
When you speak about something in a certain way, you’re affirming that opinion in your mind. I seriously believe that this is a fantastic way to spice up a bad day. If you go around telling everyone how bad your day has been, while over-exaggerating the details, chances are you’ll start to believe that it has actually been the worst day of your life.
“No one really has a bad life. Not even a bad day. Just bad moments.”
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and be dope at life.
Yes it’s been a bad day for me, but…